Emotions can be intense, but they don’t have to dictate how we treat others. Just like you have the self-control not to commit the worst possible actions, you also have the power to choose how you communicate—especially when triggered. The environment you create with your words and actions is in your hands.
If you can control yourself enough to not murder a person, you can control how you communicate with others.
When someone says something that activates you, you have the choice of how you respond to what was said.
If you respond explosively and create an unsafe environment, that is within your scope of control.
The idea that being "a highly emotional person" or in a triggered state gives you license to create an unsafe environment is not healthy, and omits personal responsibility.
The truth is that being in a triggered state or highly activated doesn't mean that you can't control how you speak or act.
It is as much in your control what environment you create with your actions as it is in your control whether you murder someone. You can choose to lose control, but ultimately the control lies within you.
At the end of the day, YOU set the tone for how your home feels. If you don't like what you see, you can choose to make changes within yourself.